Yarrow
Stand firm and resolute in who you are and what you believe!!
Many of us gathered with family and friends yesterday which can be a joyous occasion. However, it can be just as equally miserable as we are presented the opportunity to compare lives, leading to judgement and even a desire to fit in. As someone who always was quirky and different, this has been something that has cropped up personally for me several times before. We feel disheartened that we haven’t reached the level of success someone else has—whether that be through a career or having a family. Either way, this is a sticky time for us and can lead to a questioning of beliefs, boundaries, lifestyles, and even who we are!
We fail to realize that success comes in many different forms and they may be just as envious about you as you are of them. This is one reason to never compare lives as you are only getting the highlights. You aren’t capable of witnessing any inner turmoil that person may be going through. It also serves you no purpose to abandon everything you are, everything you believe in, and have learned just so you could have a taste of someone else’s life. That never would bring a long-term sense of happiness and instead would only leave you far more miserable.
You are who you are for a reason. It takes true courage and strength to step out of the “normal” to embrace your authentic self. It can be lonely but you aren’t shackled to a façade! There is no mask to remember to don each morning. You are more liberated than most in that regard.
Don’t sell yourself short as there is much to celebrate within your life as well. It may not be as grand as someone else’s but it doesn’t need to be. The smallest actions can reap the biggest rewards. The real travesty is to deny yourself so you can fit an imaginary perception of the ideal person. No religion, no career, no love, etc. can grant you the same level of happiness and success, if you don’t truly resonate with it deep within your very spirit.
So, stop pining after others’ lives and strengthen your own boundaries and beliefs. Don’t chase their dreams. Live yours!
*Card is from The Druid Plant Oracle by Philip and Stephanie Carr-Gomm**